5 Subtle questions that'll get her to reveal her most personal information

I can't tell you how many times I hear from weekly score members, "She wasn't like this when I met her."

Of course she was!

She just didn't tell you.

When you first meet a woman, especially online, it's easy to caught up in all the excitement.

But if you don't get the goods on her early on - problems could sneak up on you later, when you least expect it.

So to avoid a possible messy break-up or complete psychopath boiling rabbits in your kitchen, here are 5 important questions you should know about a woman before you move forward with a date.

Does she want a family?

Is she uptight?

Is she a gold digger?

Is she lying about her interests just to get you to like her?

Does she have a lot of "bad relationship" baggage?

Now you can?t just blurt out these questions to a woman.

You could either scare her off (which will be more than likely) or cause her to lie about something she's not sure you'll want to hear.

So you have to be subtle.

Bring up topics of conversation or ask subtle questions that will lead you to your answer.

And to avoid being spotted as a snoop, just bring up these topics or questions within a larger e-mail. Just a few sentences in the middle of normal conversation works perfectly.

I've included a few examples today that should help you not only get the answers you need - but also allow you to look like a guy who's truly interested in learning more about her.

Women love this stuff!



Get inside her head



Does she want a family?

Most women who want to start a family will generally be close with THEIR family, or have a desire to join a family that is already close. Here's the best way to bring up this issue.

I?m thinking about going to see my (insert family member here) next weekend. I haven?t seen her/him in a while. Do you get to spend a lot of time with your family?

If her answer to this question is more than a couple of sentences, and she speaks positively of her family; chances are, she's close with her family, and may want a family of her own.

Decades of studies have shown that women who enjoy close family ties growing up, often seek their own families later on. There's also evidence which indicates that women who don't enjoy close family ties, 71% of the time, still seek their own families once they leave their childhood homes. Therefore, if she responds negatively about her own family, don't assume that she's not "family-oriented." Rather, to find out, use this follow-up question:

I?m sorry to hear about your family. That had to have been tough. Do you think your relationship with your family will change at all, once you start your own family?

Her answer to this question will tell you flat out if she does want a family of her own.

She'll either admit to not wanting a family or answer your question outright. There's really no other way to go on this question. And if she ignores it, take that as a cue that a family is not something she's thinking about.



Is she uptight?

There's nothing worse than going through all the hassle of getting a date, just to find out the woman you?re out with is uptight.

Let's face it. You're not in high school anymore. Playing childish games and having her make you jump through hoops just for a kiss doesn?t fly anymore.

Here's how to find out if she'll be uptight.

At some point, you will start talking about previous relationships. It's inevitable. When this happens, take the lead. Try something like this:

So, if you don?t mind my asking. What happened with your last relationship?

Her answer will open up a discussion that you can manipulate to get your answer. Just keep the questions coming.

If she tells you that he was too immature. Then ask her, "How was he immature"?

If she tells you that he couldn't commit. Then ask her, "Why do you think that was the case"?

At some point in this discussion, she will give you some clues as to whether or not she's uptight.

For example. If she comments on his inappropriate humor or language, that could be a clue.

If she complains that he was "too sexual." That too can be a clue.

The more she talks, the more you?ll know.

And this technique actually doubles as a "oh, he actually cares about how I feel" angle too.

She doesn't know you're trying to find out if she's uptight or not. And she doesn't have to. Just keep it subtle.

Is she a gold digger?

To be honest, some guys don't even mind gold diggers.

There's an attitude among many men that as long as they get what they want out of the relationship, they don't mind shelling out their hard-earned money.

I'm not saying I agree or disagree.

But if you're trying to avoid the gold digger, try this one:

A buddy of mine might be taking a new job as an editor for this new publishing company. He's really excited about it because he's always wanted to be a writer. This'll be his first real opportunity. Only thing is, he's going to have to take a pay cut. He doesn't seem too concerned about it though. I mean, he'll still make enough to pay all his bills and still have a couple of bucks left over. But his wife is so angry. I think she's upset because it might take a year or two for him to start making the same money he's making now at his current job (which he doesn't really like so much). I don't know. It must be hard to have to take a pay cut. But it is what he's always wanted to do.

If her comments are in favor of the wife in this scenario, she's obviously the type who would be more concerned with how much money you make than about whether or not you're happy. And that, my friend, is a sure sign of a gold digger.

Is she lying about her interests just to get you to like her?

Women do this all the time.

And who are we kidding? We do it too.

But if you want to know for sure whether or not she's full of hot air or her similar interests are legitimate, try this:

Find one similar interest that she said she enjoys. Then, ask her specific questions about it.

For example, if she said she likes to travel. Ask her where her favorite vacation spot is. If she just gives you a one-word answer, follow-up with another question about the same topic. Try to pin her down for specifics. That'll show you whether or not she's being real with you.

Does she have a lot of "bad relationship" baggage?

The last thing you need is to be one of many in a long line of relationship horror stories.

Usually, a woman with a lot of "bad relationship" baggage will expose herself early on in your conversations. These types of women generally place the blame of all past relationships on the man. "They" always did something to "her."

So when you're talking about previous relationships, just like when you're trying to see if she's uptight, try something like:

I can't believe you're not attached. How does someone like you manage to be single?

She should be flattered by this question. But if she starts going off about how all these guys in her past "did her wrong," bear in mind, she could be the one with the problem.

Though let me also say that some women do just have bad luck with men. This doesn't mean you shouldn't give her a chance. Just keep your guard up. That's all.

Ultimately, the best way to find out what you want is just by asking. But the fact is, sometimes, there are just certain questions that could risk the chance of a possible relationship.

So be smart, be subtle and be inquisitive.

She'll think you're just trying to get to know her better. She'll think you're genuinely interested in her points of view.

And that may in fact be the case.

But leaving important questions unanswered could cause problems later on.

Better to figure out where she stands from the get go - just to avoid any broken hearts or broken windows later.

Happy Scoring!