Finding your perfect woman...part 4

The Gentle Art of Introduction

How to find your perfect woman...part 4

Up to this point, I've showed you exactly how to find your perfect woman based solely on her profile.

But the real test as to whether or not she'll fit the bill as your perfect woman will be the actual communication you have with her. And that starts, logically - with your introduction.

Introducing yourself to a woman online is so much easier than doing it in real life.

There's no need to be 'quick' or worry about looking nervous.

And even if you are still a bit nervous...she'll never know.

The only thing you need to concern yourself with at this point is making a good first impression.

And since you have time to choose your words wisely, there's less chance of awkwardness, stuttering, or just putting your foot in your mouth.

Of course, there’s also a fine art to introducing yourself to a woman online.

Actually, it's less of an art and more of a scientific approach.

The fact is women do love to talk about themselves.

Actually, everyone loves to talk about themselves. Men and women!

And why not?

It makes us feel important. It makes us feel like we have something interesting or significant to offer.

Ask any psychologist, and I'm sure you'll get a number of scientific reasons as to why people love to talk about themselves.

But whatever the reason - know that your chances of impressing any woman are increased dramatically if you just take the opportunity to use this knowledge wisely.

When it's time to make an introduction, word your message in such a way that it gives her an opportunity to talk about herself. You can often do this by specifically acknowledging something she mentioned in her ad, and then include a follow-up question.

This will not only give her an opportunity to talk about herself, but it will also give her something specific to respond to when she replies.

The best way I can illustrate this is with an example of an actual introduction message that was sent in December, 2004. This particular message laid the groundwork for what eventually led to a date only one week later.

Take a look...

Hey Jennifer,

I happened to come across your profile and saw that you spent some time in the south of Italy last year. Did you get a chance to go to Pompeii at all? I recently read a book called, The Last Days of Pompeii. Ever since, I've had this amazing desire to go and see it in person. Of course, if I do ever get the chance, I'm definitely going to spend some time in Sorrento too. From what I've seen online, it looks absolutely beautiful. Did you spend any time there?

Not only is a message like this a great way to introduce yourself (as well as impress her) - it also gives her the opportunity to talk about herself. And that's the best way for you to find out if she could be the kind of woman you'd like to date.

Join me next week when I'll show you how to keep the conversation interesting – and moving forward to a first date.

Until then,

Happy Scoring!

Jack Conway