Finding your perfect woman...part 5

These are the women you will date

Last week I showed you the most effective way to introduce yourself to a woman that could be your perfect match. (Visit the archives to see last week’s article)

I say “could be,” because you won’t know for sure how well the two of you will connect until she responds to your ad or your introduction.

Now I should mention, before we go any further, that while there is still an element of anonymity with online dating – some women can still be a little shy at first. So don’t be too judgmental if her first response isn’t award-winning.

Besides, what you’re really looking for here are two things:


Reciprocal attraction

• In other words, do you feel that she is someone you would like to continue talking to and possibly date? If her response is negative in any way towards continuing the conversation or dating you, cross her off your list. And don’t look at this as a rejection either…but rather an opportunity to spend more time focusing on women who really are interested in you. You’ll know if they respond to you in a friendly and inviting manner. Remember, this is your opportunity to make sure you don’t have to waste yourtime.

A desire to keep the conversation moving forward

• In your original message, you acknowledged something about her that you found in her profile and you asked a question about her. Now it’s her opportunity to respond in a way that will invite another message from you and keep the conversation moving forward. Though if her response doesn’t immediately create an environment for another message from you, don’t feel you have to immediately cross her off your list. If her response was friendly and inviting, she still may be a great person for you to date. Give her time. However, if after 3 or 4 communications, she’s still made no effort to really communicate ‘with you’ as opposed to ‘to you,’ it may be time to cross her off your list as well. That’ll just have to be a judgment call on your part.


And obviously, if she doesn’t respond at all – don’t even bother with a follow-up. When a woman is interested, she will respond after your introduction.

After you’ve received your replies, it’s time to move onto – your absolute matches.

These are your matches who, after you’ve read their replies, strike you as the kind of women you want to take out on a date.

Though, let’s face it; you probably still have a number of women left to choose from. And no matter how enticing it may sound, you can’t possibly date all of them.

As your communications with these women progress, some will certainly stand out more than others. And these are the women that will make it into your final pool – the final absolutes.

Your final absolutesare the women who you will date.

These are the women who are exactly what you’ve been searching for.

And you didn’t have to troll every singles bar in your city for years on end to find her.

All you had to do was go to the one place where you were able to…in less time than you’ve ever imagined, select your perfect match.

She’s there right now. Waiting.

All you have to do is take a few minutes to find her (follow the steps I just outlined in this five-part series and you’ll find her in no time)…then begin what could be the start of a new and exciting relationship.

Until next time,

Happy Scoring!!!