She'll be rushing to her computer, just to talk to YOU.
By Jack ConwaySo there you are. Sitting in front of your computer, gazing upon one of the most beautiful women you've ever seen on an online dating site.
And to make it even better...
her profile reads like an instruction manual for building the perfect woman.
Granted, you've seen some pretty impressive specimens so far. But this one takes the cake.
She's perfect for you. And the last thing you want to do is wait for her to discover you. Because, let's be serious. A woman this perfect won't be single much longer.
So it's clear that you will have to make the first move.
Now what?
This is your one shot to impress her. Say something stupid, boring or just unimpressive, and you're done.
So you better make it count.
The perfect response to HER personal ad
A few weeks ago, a V.I.P. member sent me a reply that he had planned on sending this gorgeous woman he found on match.com.
He had asked me to review it and make any suggestions I felt necessary. Though I only had one -"do not send this reply. She will NEVER talk to you."
Now this particular member was receiving between 8 to 12 replies per week from the profile I wrote for him. Not the greatest response rate by our standards, but a lot better than he was used to.
Unfortunately, the one woman he really wanted to meet had not discovered his profile on her own. So in order to meet her, he would have to make the first move.
This is when I received his request.
As a V.I.P. member, he receives two personal consultations with me. This would be his first. But to be honest, trying to explain what was wrong with his reply wasn't going to do him any good without seeing firsthand, what will and will not work. So in order to accomplish this, I re-wrote his reply for him - and then give him the right tools for any future replies.
With his permission, I'm including his first reply so you can see how NOT to do this.
Hello Jennifer. My name is Michael. I just read your profile. You seem very interesting. You also have very pretty eyes. I bet you hear that all the time. :) Check out my profile and let me know if you would like to get together sometime. I would really like to go out on a date with you. I'll wait for your reply. Michael.
In the Weekly Score special report, "Seal the Deal Online: She'll be putty in your hands." I go over, in detail, the cardinal rules for approaching women online.
For our purposes here, I will concentrate on just a few that have been completely disregarded in Michael's reply.
Do not be overly-formal
It's a turn-off for many women.
It indicates a guy who is unsure of himself, a little stuffy and quite possibly, boring. This may not be the case at all. But this is exactly how most women will see you. Online dating can be hard enough for some women. The last thing they want to deal with is someone who isn't at least a little laid back.
Be confident
I tell members this all the time. Confidence is an aphrodisiac. The confident guy is never the lonely guy.
Do not be overzealous
Just give her enough information so that she knows you're interested. But not so much that you sound needy and desperate.
Women love a challenge. It's almost better to come across as a guy who's interested in this woman -but could just easily forget all about her and move on. Even if that's not the case, it's definitely how you can put yourself in the driver's seat for any future communication...and ultimately, dates.
Ask questions
The easiest way to get a woman to contact you is to ask her a question. And I don't mean some random, ridiculous question either. The most effective technique you can use when contacting a woman is to do your research. Look at her profile, find something she's interested in, comment on it, then follow up with a question. You'll see an example of this below in the edited version of Michael's reply.
Here's the edited version:
Hey Jennifer. Just read your profile. I see you've spent some time in Italy. Your pictures of Pompeii look amazing by the way. I'm heading to Naples in the Fall for a couple of weeks. After looking at your pictures, I'm definitely putting Pompeii on my agenda. Just out of curiosity, about how long is the train ride from Naples to Pompeii??
Okay. Now at first glance, this does not look like the kind of reply that would insinuate your interest in this woman. But that's exactly the point.
Listen. If you were to see a woman at a bar, would you just walk right up to her and ask her out on a date?
Of course not.
You would talk to her first. Get to know her. Get her to feel comfortable around you so when you do ask her out on a date, you'll have a better shot.
Well the same technique holds true here.
With the edited reply, you're now able to show her that
A.) You're interested in something that she's interested in. Common interests will at least get her attention.
B.) You appreciate something she did (her photographs of Pompeii) and
C.) You're interested in her opinion. Women love that!
After she reads this profile, the hope is that she will at least respond to your question. Once she's done that, you can keep the conversation moving with further questions, comments or how something she's done or enjoys relates to you.
After the first response, this communication should develop naturally.
Developing a non-threatening, zero-pressure communication with this woman will lay the groundwork for a date. It will allow her to become comfortable around you. And it will also help you stand out among all those other guys who keep hounding her for dates and filling her inbox with predictable lines.
You can find out more about constructing a "first response" in our special report, Seal the Deal Online: She'll be putty in your hands.
Happy Scoring!


