The quickest way to get a woman to date you!

You want to know the quickest way to get a woman to date you?

It's simple:

Forget about the quickest way.

You wouldn't believe how many guys try to ask a woman out on a date the very first time they get a response to their ad.

It's not a race!

Granted, if a woman asked you out right away, you'd probably go for it.

But you're a man.

And, newsflash!!!

Men and women are different.

You know the drill. Women need you to go that extra mile.

And it has nothing to do with control or ego either. Though I know some may disagree with me.

But the proof is in the science.

You see, using scientific data to construct personal ads, responses and our own research reports on dating and women has allowed our members to become more successful at online dating than most other men.

From academic journals and data analysis to in- house investigative studies, we've been able to pinpoint what works and what doesn't when it comes to online dating.

It's also how we've been able to validate today's claim -

Take it slow, and she'll jump at the chance to go out with you!

According to decades of research, many women will not be responsive to a man's advances unless they feel comfortable. This has many times been attributed to the role of protector.

If a woman feels comfortable, she feels that she is out of harm's way.

If you provide her with that feeling of comfort, you are thereby taking on the role of protector - indirectly, anyway.

And with that, you are then in a position to get close to her without the possibility of rejection.

But how do you get to that point?

How do you get a woman to feel comfortable enough around you that the possibility of a date is not only real, but the only thing she'll be thinking about until it happens?

Well, providing a level of comfort online is actually pretty easy.

With a few, well-written and well-placed cues, you can subtly convince a woman to feel comfortable with you.

Let me explain.

When you first start talking to a woman online, it's already understood that there's some level of compatibility. Otherwise, you wouldn't even be there.

However, with that in mind, understand that women often need their feelings reciprocated and validated. This is how they become comfortable with you.

And here's where the delicate balance begins.

If you don't give her a metaphorical wink here or there, she'll lose interest fast.

If you shower her with too many compliments and questions that are obviously intended for your feelings to be validated, almost trying to force a comfort level upon her - she'll lose interest even faster.

The best way I can demonstrate how to approach this balance is by example.

Here are two partial samples I took from an online communication between a weekly score member (yes, he did give us permission to use this). He played it perfectly.

Communication #1 via Instant Message (Friday, 2/5/05)

Irisheyes: So do you have any big plans for the weekend?

HarborTim: I'm probably going stay at work an extra hour or so tonight then head over to Rio Bravo with a friend of mine for dinner. He keeps raving about how they have the best Mexican food in Bellingham. You like Mexican food?

Irisheyes: I love Mexican! You'll have to let me know how it is.

HarborTim: Well, if it's any good, maybe I'll take you there sometime.

Irisheyes: I'd really like that. ; )

HarborTim: What about you. Do you have any exciting plans this weekend?

Irisheyes: Nothing too exciting. Probably rent some movies tonight. I'm going to go shopping with my sister tomorrow.

HarborTim: Sounds like a nice relaxing weekend.

Irisheyes: Yeah.

Now let's go over this communication.

Can you tell why our friend, HarborTim is well on his way?

First off, when asked what his plans were for the weekend, he managed to send her 3 subtle clues about himself that would make her find him more attractive, and allow her to feel comfortable with her decision to possibly date him.

Here's his response:

I'm probably going stay at work an extra hour or so tonight then head over to Rio Bravo with a friend of mine for dinner. (HER TRANSLATION - He's a hard-worker and he has plans, so he's not waiting around for a date.) He keeps raving about how they have the best Mexican food in Bellingham. (HER TRANSLATION - he enjoys going out to eat and experiencing different types of food) You like Mexican food? (HER TRANSLATION - he's interested in my opinion.)

Tim then tempted her with his potential invite for dinner:

Well, if it's any good, maybe I'll take you there sometime. (HER TRANSLATION - Is he asking me out?) Now she'll be thinking about this until the next time they talk. Tim is now going to be on her mind more than just during their brief communications.

The final score for Tim during this conversation are these two lines:

What about you. Do you have any exciting plans this weekend? (HER TRANSLATION - He cares about how I'm spending my weekend)

Sounds like a nice relaxing weekend. (HER TRANSLATION - He finds my boring weekend nice and relaxing. He's not unimpressed. He might actually get me)

Communication #2 via e-mail (Sunday, 2/6/05)

Her e-mail read:

Hey Tim,

So how was Rio Bravo on Friday? Did you have fun with your friend? I ended up getting some burritos with my sister on Saturday. You got me in the mood for some good Mexican. I couldn't resist when we drove by Baja Fresh on the way home from the mall. (THERE'S MORE, BUT THESE FEW LINES WILL PROVIDE THE RELEVANCE WE NEED FOR TIM'S RESPONSE)

Tim's response e-mail:

Hey Jennifer,

Rio Bravo was excellent. Easily the best Mexican food I've had in years. Plus it was great catching up with my friend. We've known each other since college. We usually get together at least once a week. But he spent the last 3 months in Japan for his job. So needless to say, I didn't get home until late Friday night. Anyway, I'm definitely going to have to take you to Rio Bravo for dinner. You won't believe this place. I'm probably going to have to work late most of this week. This is actually the busiest week for us here. And I already made plans a few weeks ago for Friday. But Saturday night is definitely open. Let me know if that works for you.

Now let's go over this second communication.

Rio Bravo was excellent. Easily the best Mexican food I've had in years. Plus it was great catching up with my friend. (HER TRANSLATION - He had a good time without me. I wonder if he thought about me at all) We've known each other since college. We usually get together at least once a week. (HER TRANSLATION - He's loyal to the people he cares about) But he spent the last 3 months in Japan for his job. (HER TRANSLATION - His friends are interesting and well- traveled. He must be too.) So needless to say, I didn't get home until late Friday night. Anyway, I'm definitely going to have to take you to Rio Bravo for dinner. (HER TRANSLATION - He's asking me out! He's asking me out!) You won't believe this place. I'm probably going to have to work late most of this week. (HER TRANSLATION - Wow, he's a hard worker. He's probably very responsible and secure). This is actually the busiest week for us here. And I already made plans a few weeks ago for Friday. (HER TRANSLATION - This guy's always got something going on. He's not jumping at the chance to go out with me. I want him even more now) But Saturday night is definitely open. Let me know if that works for you. (HER TRANSLATION - He's so nice. He wants to check with me to see what works for me.)

Another homerun!

In just two communications, Tim managed to portray himself as a caring, genuine, hard-working, intelligent, well-traveled, loyal, hard-to-get man.

And he did all of this without being obvious.

By portraying himself this way, he was able to put Jennifer's mind at ease. He made her feel comfortable.

And comfort, my friends, is what will allow a woman to open up and WANT to date you.

If a woman doesn't feel comfortable, you have no chance.

It's just that simple.

Happy Scoring!