Turning Women On: the 5 biggest myths - part 3

Last week you read about the second biggest myth in regards to turning women on via your personal ad. It's called the Romance Myth. And in case you missed it, you can read the full article in the archives of the Weekly Score.

Today we'll go over the third biggest myth about turning women on via your personal ad - the 'game' myth!

You often hear guys talking about their 'game.' What they do or say to when introduction themselves to a woman for the first time.

You know, after running the Weekly Score for the past few years, there's no doubt that I¡¦ve heard my share of ludicrous 'games.' Most are so ridiculous, I don't see how any self-respecting man could ever even consider some of these things. I won't get into the specifics, because honestly, that's nothing more than a waste of time anyway.

Because when you introduce yourself to a woman online, there's only one effective way to introduce yourself - and it has nothing to do with a cheesy pick-up line or cat and mouse run.

The thing is, the women on these online personals sites are looking to meet men. Why else would they be there? And because all your information is right out in the open for them to see, and vice-versa, there's absolutely no point in wasting time with those typical come-ons.

All you have to do is show an interest without being, for lack of a better word - creepy.

Let me explain:

Last year, we decided to run a test on introductory messages using the Weekly Score method of an effective introduction. (You can read more about this in the Weekly Score archives).

The Weekly Score method follows 3 basic rules:

1.) Acknowledge something in her profile
2.) Keep it light
3.) End with a question

Now with this test, we follow these rules in ever introduction. However, we ran 20 introductions without using the typical 'game' approach and 20 with the 'game' approach.

Let me show you what I mean.

Below you'll find two introductions for a woman who made it perfectly clear that she's very health conscious, spends a lot of time at the gym and trains hard for triathlons.

Here's an introduction we wrote using the typical 'game' approach.

Hey Stacy,

I see you like to spend a lot of time at the gym. Though it's pretty obvious by looking at your pictures that you like to keep you body in shape. :) I'm often at the gym too. In fact, I'm hoping to qualify this year in the fall 10K. So which triathlons do you compete in?


Here's an introduction to the same woman we wrote without using the typical 'game' approach.

Hey Stacy,

Are you competing in the High Falls Triathlon this year? I've been training for the last 4 months. It'll be my first triathlon. I take it you've been at this for awhile. Any suggestions for an amateur?

Both of these introductions have all the right parts. They're light, they ask questions and they acknowledge some part of her profile. However, the first one made the mistake of de-emphasizing the natural and non-threatening flow of the introduction with the comment about her keeping her body in shape.

Even if she's the most self-centered woman in the world, and is obsessed with her looks - that one comment takes the focus off of you being inquisitive and interested in getting to know her and puts it on you being just another guy with another pick-up line.

Stacy never responded to the first. But she wrote a lengthy and, somewhat flirtatious response to the second.

Listen, for the most part, trying to use pick-up lines in an introduction on a personals ad will not work.

Women come to these sites because it takes them out of the meat market of a bar, and puts them in a safer environment - away from cheesy pick-up lines and guys trying to impress them with their 'game.'

Of course, many times you won't even need an introduction as a professionally-written personal ad will often have her introducing herself to you first. And at that point, it's pretty much a cake walk.

Happy Scoring!