You'll be the most incredible man she's ever met!!! Part 2

The last thing you need is to convince a woman online to date you – then screw up the date so badly that she never talks to you again.

So in an effort to help you avoid the pitfalls of a ‘bad date,’ last week I introduced you to the first of five failsafe dates that work every time.

You can view the first of this five-part series for free at the weekly score archives.

Now like I said last week:

“A first date should allow you the opportunity to provide a place where you and your date can get to know each other, while at the same time, allowing her to feel safe and comfortable.”

Comfort is key!

If she can’t feel comfortable with you on the first date, there will most likely not be a second.

Coffee Talk

One of the best trends to take hold in the 90s was the coffee bar.

Coffee bars represent the perfect setting for a ‘first date.’ Here’s why:

Coffee bars often provide a relaxing environment, which is conducive to making her feel a bit more comfortable, right off the bat.

The warm lighting, the smell of the coffee beans, the relaxing music. It’s the perfect set-up for a date.

And while it can be a romantic setting, it doesn’t hold to the same standards as an ‘over-the-top’ dating situation that may require getting dressed to the nines or an overpriced dinner bill.

Coffee bar dates should be casual. Though don’t confuse casual with sloppy.

A nice pair of khakis and a button-down shirt would do just fine. Leave the Foghat t-shirt and ripped jeans for another time.

When you arrive, it’s best to find a table further away from the counter. This way, you don’t need to worry about some caffeine-junkie spilling his caramel latte all over your date’s sweater during the part of the conversation where she’s telling you about her childhood.

And just because it’s a coffee bar, doesn’t mean you need to order coffee.

In fact, I don’t recommend it for two reasons:

Reason #1

You’re not going to look very manly throwing back a triple chocolate latte with whipped cream and chocolate sprinkles. Plus, that can get messy anyway.

Reason #2

Coffee makes your breath stink!

Nothing kills the mood faster than bad breath.

I suggest an iced tea or even one of the bottled sodas that many coffee bars sell nowadays.

If the date is going well, and the both of you have time, you can than suggest taking a walk or even getting a bite to eat a little later.

And if the date isn’t going well – at least you didn’t spend more than a couple of bucks to find out that she’s not the one.

I know it doesn’t sound like the nicest thing to say. But let’s be realistic. Sometimes women aren’t what they seem when you get out on the first date.

There are plenty more women online – so why waste your time and money on a situation that you know isn’t going to work.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying bail at the first sight of disagreement or questioning. Don’t forget. This is a first date.

At this point, you’re just trying to get to know each other.

So be open-minded, be patient and be realistic with her and yourself.

Until next week,

Happy Scoring!